Breaking up really sucks. It can feel like your world has just ended. Your ex is always on your mind and you wonder what could I have done different? Why did we break up? What can I do to get them back? As lonely and painful as it is right now everything isn’t over. There are things you can do to ease your pain.
The first thing you have to do is to make a conscious decision to get over your ex. Some people really do not want to get over the ones they loved and left. So if you do not intend genuinely to get over your ex then this is not for you. Write it down in your agenda or place it in a conspicuous place in your office or house.
Most guys really want to know that you enjoyed them and that you had a good time. When you immediately start talking about your plans for tomorrow, bills or other things, it makes the guy think that he didn’t do a good job.
Also, this may be the first time in our history that so many women have been so vital after traditional retirement. They’re taking better care of themselves. And the societal norm no longer tells them retirement should be spent baking cookies and playing with the grandkids. The new norm is that retirement is not an ending, but an opportunity to start a second chapter. Women are turning hobbies into profitable ventures. Or finding a new area of business they find fascinating. She may get a teaching certificate, or become an accountant. The possibilities are endless.
One mistake people often make is they don’t realize that it is actually the rituals and routine being in a relationship they are missing, not that other person. This is one thing you need to figure out. Are you feeling sad because you miss your ex, or because you are not in that secure and familiar relationship anymore. After you have figured that out, you can make your next move according to this.
Bonus Tip: Be honest and open minded. It’s important to be honest with each other as much as possible. If something isn’t going exactly the way you planned, be sure to speak up. Likewise, if your new partner gives you some constructive criticism, try not to take it to heart, but work with it so that it benefits both of you. Not everyone works the same way, so compromise will be key to keep everyone happy. By working together, you will form a solid lasting relationship more quickly!